I saw an article in my Facebook feed today, and I found it rather interesting: 15 Things that Introverts Would Never Tell You
I had never considered myself to be an introvert, although I am definitely not an extrovert. I kind of just thought that I was a bit of both. However, after reading this article, I’ve come to realize that I am definitely an introvert.
As I was reading each point, I reflected on how each of these are true to me.
1. Small talk sucks.
I don’t enjoy it. Its very hard for me. It makes me uncomfortable.
2. Being alone is fine.
I need my time alone. When I need that time, I don’t want to be forced to be around other people.
3. We aren’t rude or uptight.
Not intentionally anyway. Social situations make me uncomfortable, so if I don’t say anything or very little, its not because I’m trying to be rude, I just don’t know how to interact with you or just don’t have anything that I want to say.
4. Sometimes, we swing both ways.
I do have days where I will be more outgoing than most days. That doesn’t mean I want to do it all the time.
5. We have friends. And they like us! Probably.
I like hanging out with friends, but I’d rather be with one or two, where we can have personal conversations than with a bunch of people talking about all kinds of things. When I’m with a smaller group, I will talk more, but put me with 10 people all talking, I will probably say almost nothing.
6. When with the right people, we feel safe.
I have a very small number of friends who I feel like I can share anything with. Although I have several other friends who I really like being around, I don’t always feel like I can share everything with them. If I feel like they will judge me for things, I will tend not to open up to them.
7. We like to write things out.
Definitely!! When I have a conversation with someone, I always feel like I’m being put on the spot. If we’re discussing something that is very in-depth and detailed, I often won’t be able to think about it as much until afterwards, when I’m alone with my thoughts.
Its that reason that I also suck at improv. I loved doing drama in high school, and the improv games were always fun to watch, but when I had to participate in them, I always had a really hard time coming up with stuff. Afterwards, I would come up with all kinds of things I could have said or done.
Same when I’m in an argument or heated discussion with people.
8. We’re super productive.
Most of the time. I work better alone on stuff that doesn’t require a lot of input or feedback from others while I’m working on it. This is probably why I like being a front-end web developer. I don’t have to collaborate too much with others while I’m doing my thing. I just get it done. Its not a job that really requires other people to contribute. That actually makes things messy.
9. If we don’t like you, you won’t know it.
If you’re paying attention, you might notice my body language or something, but for the most part, this is true. I won’t ever come out and tell someone I don’t like them. In many cases, I won’t even tell other people that I don’t like a specific person, unless I know they feel the same way.
10. Networking events suck.
Just like small talk. I hate this kind of stuff. As much as I want to do it, it makes me super uncomfortable to be put in these situations.
11. We don’t like crowds.
I think this one kind of speaks for itself and is related to several other points in this list.
12. Sorry, we probably weren’t listening to your story.
This really depends on the situation and who you are.
13. Don’t make a fuss out of our birthdays.
When I was a kid, I loved birthday parties! At least my own. I didn’t always like going to other’s parties.
Now, I don’t want to do anything. Just get me a cake and I’m happy. Don’t sing. That makes me super uncomfortable.
14. We don’t want to make a fuss out of your birthday.
Pretty much the same as number 13.
15. If we’ve chosen to be friends with you, appreciate it.
This speaks for itself.
Anyways, I hope this helps other people understand me a little better.